Hey all! I just wanted to share something with you today. Something a little out of the ordinary. For the post today, I wanted to tell you a subject that some people are or are not comfortable with. That subject is love/relationships.
From my personal standpoint, I have never been in a relationship personally because most guys or girls can be sometimes controlling (controlling I have a huge problem with and is one of my biggest pet peeves). They sit there and tell you that you can't do this or that. Well, sometimes we need to forgo that. But you know they won't listen at all. But back to my point, sometimes the controlling can be tolerated or not. If you can handle it, good for you. If not, speak up and say something about it.
Relationships are a lot like dogs and cats. Sometimes they love each other, sometimes they'll fight it out. That's just how I put it as. But anyways, relationships are not for the faint of heart. They can bite you in the butt if you keep spoiling and treating them as if they were your own kid. Realizing that little statement there will help anyone who does that in their own relationship.
Now to the love part. How you do figure out whether or not you've really fell for that person? Was it for their looks? Charm? Humor? Excellent taste in food? There has to be at least one thing about this person that you go head over heels for. For me, I really like humor in a person. Sometimes humor can overtake it and then you need to be serious about the situation. Humor is the only thing that will keep me sane with someone that I decide to fall in love with (in the future of course). If you find other qualities about the person that you so love about them, get to know the person some more. They may find out they have the same taste in video games as you. That's one example.
So, my rules of relationships are:
1) Decide whether or not you really love them (or saying "I Love You" to them) as much as you do.
2) Don't plan ahead your future with the person. It can feel rushed and sometimes not good.
3) Figure out difference and similarities with the person. If there isn't a whole lot in common with either of you, it isn't worth it. But if you can tolerate one person's difference, deal with it.
4) Never ever kiss or get it on on the first date. EVER!
Another tip: If they start to act blow-off-ish or snobbish towards you, end the relationship for good. It'll hurt, but trust me on this one.
What I look for in a person: a sense of humor (makes me feel better when we can make each other laugh so hard that we piss our pants), charm (if you can treat me like a girl should be treated, I'll be happy), eyes (if I want to look at you, I'll look at you forever), and smile (if you have a smile that's hard to resist, I don't know what to do with myself).
Turn-offs: Cockiness (acting like you know it all or thinking you do will drive me bonkers I can't stand this), Controlling (if you stand or sit there and tell me what to do or how to tell me how to do it, we're through), and being focused on something else other than me (it can give me senses that you are not focused on the person enough or just don't care about the relationship at all). If you had a criminal background, done drugs or smoked, don't even think twice about coming near me.
So, I wanted to post this for you. I hope you somewhat understand this.
TTYL.
Lauren.
